noun
\ˌme-tə-ˈmȯr-fə-səs\ : a major change in the appearance or character of
someone or something
“It’s like you’re living in a @$#!ing cage.”
Staring in the mirror at the red and blue lights flashing
for miles in slow procession behind us, it was an uncomfortable truth to hear
the words that encapsulate my days and my nights. For miles he listened
patiently and quietly as the anger and sadness and loneliness and the pressure
began to seep from the cracks that have been building.
A cage.
A year has passed since that moment when I let everything
inside seep through the tiny cracks spreading like ghostly fingers through the
walls I’ve built. Six years since the frustration and loneliness began to ebb
and flow. Thirty minutes since I wiped her tears and listened to him whisper
his quiet loneliness into the dark.
I am at odds within myself. A communicator by trade, I am
fiercely protective of the privacy of our grief and the man at the center of it
all. If a man’s worth is defined by how he lived and not how he died, why do we
place so much importance on the end note of a lifetime? Why do people remember
us for what happened and not what didn’t? Heavy with the weight of living, I
tread gently to protect a memory fading into the shadows.
In the corners of my memory I see the little girl that I
once was. The monarch lay gently wounded on the ground, a smudge of burnt orange
dust underneath the fluttering wings. The antennae lift gently and I watch my
father gently pick it up, laying it in the palm of his hand to show me its
biology and its beauty. I remember the
gentle pain I felt when I learned that it would never fly again, its wings forever
and mortally clipped.
I understand now its helplessness.
While the world has swirled around me, I’ve been wrapped in
layers of pain and responsibility and loneliness. The emotional strain leaves physical
pains, and my shortcomings leave me angry and resentful. I regret my decision
to put the needs of all others first and I find myself looking back, wishing I
had been a stronger advocate for myself. The woman that I was knew no other
path. Yet I wonder … if the path had been different would I have already
transformed and emerged in vivid color to fly free?
Or stay wrapped in this grey cocoon.
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